The Sydney Festival of Love and Lust is a new two day festival with over 20 experiential workshops, talks and ceremonies, which offer a space where you can learn about and explore relationships, sexuality and embodiment in an environment that is nurturing, inclusive, safely held, creative, informed and ethical. The festival will be will be held on 18-19 November 2017 at Creative Space 99, 99 Crown Street, Darlinghurst. The venue is not 1c New Beach Road, Rushcutters Bay, as previously announced).
If you want to:
- confront your limits and expand your horizons;
- discover and connect with others who are have similar interests;
- learn to have and maintain healthy boundaries;
- learn how to ask for and get what you desire;
- integrate your sexuality in healthy and reflective ways with the rest of your life;
- have a great deal of fun and feel the joy of being alive;
The festival is an absolutely unique opportunity.
Our Workshops and Installations
Eroticism and Lust
Fear is not the opposite of courage. In fact, very often the two go together. Often we are not even aware that we are frightened of something, or the extent to which fear is in the driver's seat in so many important aspects of our lives. Fear is not necessarily bad, it is there to protect us, but sometimes the protection prevents us from taking beautiful risks.
Join us as we create an immersive space where you can relax with soft lights and live music and take the opportunity to try out new things and experiment with what you've experienced throughout the day.
This workshop will not be about complicated knots or mastery. You will learn a few of the technical basics of Japanese bondage, and discover rope as a conscious touch and a loving encounter. Bondage need not be beautiful and perfect for it to feel alive and to give pleasure. For it to go deep, it is not necessary that the rope turn you on.
When tying or being tied, you feel your pleasure/displeasure, fear, anger and all the nuances of the whole rich pallet of human feelings…and you take to heart what is there. And perhaps this has a healing aspect. All experience levels in bondage are welcome. Experience with attentive touch, breath work and tantra is advantageous.
When is the caress of your hand, the intimacy of genitals, penetrating eye contact, or the slap of buttocks, not enough? When in a relationship do you bring something else out… and what is the thing you bring? What objects are fun in erotic play, and why? Is it for extra sensation, sensation deprivation, power play, or something else? A household item? Dress up? Sex toys? Bring along one of your favourite objects! Or bring them all!
Let’s surprise each other by bringing something we like, something that may be outside the box…..!
Yoni massage is a practice intended to truly honour a person with a vulva. This workshop is open to all people with a vulva and their partners/lovers/friends no matter what gender. If you do not have a vulva and you are not accompanied by someone with a vulva, this workshop is not for you.
The Bordello is a light-hearted fantasy role play structure which gives you the opportunity to explore and learn more about your sexuality. As a client in the bordello, you have permission to ask for what you want on the basis of spoken, mutual consent as the elementary condition for anything that may happen. The structure encourages you to be bold both in what you ask for and also in what you might be willing to provide as a service to another. All participants will have the chance to experience both roles, i.e., that of client and the service provider. There will be no money exchanged, but rather clients will offer a tribute, which the service provider might be willing to accept or not accept.
Love and Relationships
This is a workshop about physicality, movement and meaning. Two words in our modern times that are laden with misconception, ... touch - commitment. What happens when we swap the meanings of these two words? How do we than interact with one another. Definitions and our roles with each other can become clearer.
If we consider love as something that overflows our understanding, that escapes, surprises and disturbs us, that puts things into question, then we can conceive of a relationship between love and madness.
Lust and longing can drive one out of their rational mind. Similarly the loss of love/lover, or infidelity and betrayal can plunge one into depths of despair or into fear and trembling.
There's a reason why they say it's easy to be enlightened on a mountain top but if you want to see how "zen" you really are, get into a relationship!It's possible to communicate about difficult subjects or uncomfortable feelings in a way that brings you closer together rather than doing damage to the relationship, hurting each other's feelings, breeding resentment, or creating distance. Relationship coach Tod Thompson will help you bring powerful communication tools on board so that you can "fight fairly" and come out the other side of conflict feeling more whole, connected and intimate with your partner. These skills are also relevant in friendships and with colleagues.
What is your relationship with shame? If shame is a part of your life (even in a small way) come and join us to explore what shame is, how it affects you and what you can do about it.
Many people carry shame about having shame.
The closing ceremony will be an opportunity to gather the whole festival together at sunset.
Embodiment and Consent
Words so often get in the way of intimate connection so let’s use our bodies. Through simple games and exercises participants will explore embodying communication through contact improvisation, a movement form that plays with physical contact. We will fine tune our senses while waking up our ability to listen and respond to what is happening in each moment through our physicality. This workshop will be aimed at people with a broad range of movement abilities, backgrounds and bodies. Completely curious beginners as well as trained dancers/performers are welcome. Participants will feel more fully engaged with their bodies, with their minds and with each other by examining perception, touch, shared weight, listening, synchronizing, experimenting, observing, and diving into various levels of awareness. It is a fun and safe place to explore motion, dance, touch and your imagination.
The inventor of the famous Wheel of Consent, Betty Martin, will be speaking via tele-conference at the Festival of Love and Lust. Betty Martin's concept has had an enormous impact in the sex-positive field for practitioners of all kinds. It allows be people to be clearer about what is happening in any erotic interaction. The Wheel of Consent has four quadrants: giving, taking, allowing and receiving. Betty will explain what are the erotic elements, challenges, possibilities, spiritual principles and shadows of each.
Meet the festival presenters, learn about verbal and body consent and be taken on blindfolded journey through the senses.
Focussing on taste, touch, smell and sound, being blindfolded radically alters the notion of time and space, leading to the source of art: the intelligence of the body.
If you are nervous, this is the ideal way to gently dip into the festival.
Imagine playing someone’s body like a musical instrument. Or being played. And with a room full of instruments we can create a symphony as everyone reacts in the moment to an emergent artistic expression.
E-motion Yoga is a revolutionary synthesis of Yoga, Qigong, Kriya-Yoga (dynamic breath-work), Tantra (Neurogenic Tremoring - Organic body shaking) & Dance to release trapped and blocked emotions from our past that store in the electrical systems of our body causing physical and emotional health conditions thus preventing us from feeling our deepest form of love.
It can be in in the smallest, most subdued, barely there moments that the greatest ecstasy can be felt. In a world where bigger, louder, faster reigns surpreme, where if something is good more must be better, we can miss the beauty of the subtle.
In this experiential workshop we’ll be exploring what’s teetering on the edge, what hides in the muted, what lies in the spaces in-between…
In any given workshop it will always be permissible to say ‘no’ or not participate. For most workshops loose fitting, comfortable clothes are appropriate. All workshops are learner-centred and for every-body–young and old, people of varied and all abilities. It is rewarding to come alone and/or as part of a couple. Each day you can choose which workshops to go to at whichever level feels right for you. All ages, bodies, genders and orientations are unconditionally welcome.